Thoughts from a recovering perfectionist: unrealistic expectations part 1

Placing expectations on yourself, because you know yourself best and you know what you should be capable of…right? And then you don’t meet those expectations…and that’s not so nice.

This is just a reminder to set small, achievable, bite-size goals as steps to reach your main goal, and not to be too hard on yourself.

This was something I wish I had learned much earlier, or if someone was trying to tell or teach me this - I wish I had listened and taken it seriously instead of allowing my mind to tell me I know better because I’m me in my head, and continue to place unrealistic expectations upon myself.

Because you know, I should be able to do xyz, I’ll just work harder, longer hours, etc, because I can do anything I set my mind to.

…but that doesn’t work if you can’t achieve the first step because it’s too big.

So if this is something you struggle with sometimes, take a moment, take your main goal and reverse engineer it to the most basic of processes. What steps do you need to take to get there? Go further - what steps do you need to take to complete those steps? Break it down to the most basic, most achievable steps. Start at the beginning. You’ll get there.

You’re doing great.